friends don't let friends drive, sometimes

i am noticing sanford trying to separate jackson from activities we plan to do, understandably, i suppose, but i just hope it doesn't get too possessive or controlling... it's just instinct and some red flags so far, so i am just observing to look out for my best friend...

an example for me to remember is that tonight jackson and i got an email from a friend asking if we were going to run a 5k that we do together every year, a friend who has not come out to play much due to financial and personal challenges and we were hoping she would reach out... i was happy she did and jackson asked sanford if she wanted to run with us and sanford told her she wanted her to ask her to run with her, not with us...

the subtle separation happened at the 5k saturday morning too as she walked ahead and sanford walked ahead from the car to the registration area and jackson walked ahead to keep up and they didn't notice that they lost me a few times... subtle and i brushed it off as i was tired, but it fits in with the rest of the weekend...

another example is jackson knew we had the softball tournament to rush to after the 5k and that i wanted to get there as fast as possible so i could test my arm at the batting cages and on the field and also because they were short players and coaches, but first we stopped for breakfast for them and then dropped sanford at her house so there was no time for me to test my arm and that is primarily why i decided not to play...

and today jackson planned to watch the football playoffs and do laundry and get some packing done as we move next weekend and she doesn't have time monday through friday, but sanford decided to come over and they went out shopping and didn't get to do what she planned (and needed to do)... didn't finish her laundry... or put her clothes away... or watch the games... or most importantly, pack...

that's fine if that's what jackson wants, but when jackson makes plans for herself or with others - or wants to make plans with others - or starts to do things she really needs to do - she should not be persuaded to change her plans in subtle ways...

i'll mention it to her if it seems to be undermining her too much, but i shall just note it here to remind me to pay attention cuz what is a best friend for if not to look out for a best friend, after all... love can be so blind... and so beautiful too :)