get a life

what?... suck it up... get a life can be such an innocuously cruel statement, i mean, is it at all helpful?... it's like saying just get up and walk to a paraplegic, almost... like if you want to help, suggest how, suggest activities, cuz get a life is practically saying get the fuck out of here... but some people would rather be cruel than helpful... you really care and want someone to get a life then show you care by helping them get a life... take them by the hand and engage them in a fun and/or meaningful activity... if they refuse, you've at least tried something real instead of a brush-off platitude...

of course when it comes to self-talk, do whatever works... and that's the flip side actual personal point to this entry... cut the crap whining and complaining, suck it up and change your life if your life isn't pleasing you, if your life is frustrating or disappointing or unpleasant... change what you can change (which is usually a whole lot more than you think)... maybe it's time for me to move on from this town since nobody around here is filling the void and the one closest is drifting away (and draining me big time)... got a lease through the end of next january though, so the immediate self-talk is suck it up and change what can be changed... if the friends you've got don't understand you, don't really communicate with you, say things and then don't follow through on what they say, don't really care about you, or just keep their distance and don't really care to spend time with you or know what's going on inside of you or help you when you can use some help, find new friends, new playmates, new activity partners...

but don't just say get a life, m'ok?...

snarf :)